Tuesday, September 27, 2022

Kalyana Parisu Sarees

The lady who cooks came home for Thamboolam (Haldi-Kumkum) and said "It's a good omen and whatever happens henceforth will be good" , in Hindi. I didn't quite get her. She pointed out to the Saree I was wearing and repeated the same, adding that it was torn at several places. And so it was a good omen. 🤔

Yesterday, being Day 1 of Navarathri in 2022, i wanted to wear a comfortable, well-worn Saree. Don’t know if it’s my mom’s or perimma’s, this one in the picture must be easily be 30+ years old . Could be 40 as well. I tried wearing it today for about an hour but since it had a lot of wear and 'tear' literally, didn’t want to damage further. So this went back to the cupboard after being air dried for a few hours.



Back to this one - What a beautiful, simple saree this is no? Reminds of me of the inside of Naaval Pazham and the border, strong Kaapi Podi. I just loathe any dress or fabric that is "Jaga Jaga" Jaganmohini but even the simplest of sarees these days is slight "Jaga Jaga" compared to 'Andha Haalathula'. I worry for the day when such "pre loved" sarees will be branded antique and sold on instagramam for koLLai. Actually wait - I might just join the koLLai bandwagon to sell my "antiques".


PS - Btw what is "pre loved"? Call it old saree or 'second hand' Saree. Pre-Loved is seems. What is this? Some 'Kalyana Parisu' hero-heroine who were "pre-loved" before they got married to others?

Saturday, September 24, 2022

Danceu Papa Danceu Papa

This is a guest post by my sister Ammani . 

Although it is a 9-day festival, preparations for Navarathri would begin quite a few days earlier. Chitthi, my great-aunt who lived with us, would summon help to bring the big cardboard boxes down from the loft. Careful, careful, she would say as the boxes would be brought down on uneven shoulders and arms. You would think they contained delicate heirlooms (which they did, but more about that later). The boxes would be dusted down with old cotton towels and carefully unpacked to reveal a mountain of crunched up newspapers cushioning bundles of old cotton veshtis. One by careful one, Chitthi would unravel the bundles and we'd finally get to see what they'd been holding. Painted mud dolls of dancing girls, shopkeepers and eleven cricket players and an assortment of gods and goddesses. Some would have lost tips of their noses in handling, others would look like they could do with a lick of paint but they would almost come alive under Chithi's gentle caress. Who knew what she was thinking of while handling them? 

Chitthi was a child bride and I wonder if she thought of the years she never got to spend playing with dolls. Soon a rickety old contraption resembling the framework of steps would be assembled and wooden slats would be placed on them. They'd be covered first with old cotton veshtis and then with a layer of clean and crisp veshtis since their plain white background showcased the dolls better. Old dolls would jostle for shelf space with bright shiny ones and finally the Kalasam would be placed bang in the middle of the fourth of seven steps. And this would mark the official start of nine days of festivities. During Navarathri evenings, neighbours and relatives would drop in to look at the dolls, ask after each other, sing songs (often exquisitely off-tune), collect small tokens of gifts and invite you around to theirs.

On the last night, Chithi would lay the dolls down on their side as if to prepare them for retirement and the next day, they would be packed away. After Chithi's demise, we downscaled Navarathri celebrations and barring a few dolls my sister inherited, I have no idea where the rest went. Luckily for me the memories, the stories and the songs have remained and there's not a single blemish on them. And that alone is worth celebrating.

(From Blogeswari 
- Whenever I see this bommai I tend to sing an old Tamizh rhyme "Danceu Papa Danceu Papa Kobam koLLadhe... Appa varaar neramaachu, Kobam KoLLadhe" and hence the title)



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Please do read my earlier posts on Navarathri Golu.

Danceu Papa Danceu Papa

The Reluctant Poser

Twins - Separated at Birth?

Masterji

Harini's Paatti - I met her last in October 2019, if I remember right. Maama (her husband) had passed away, her son and family had moved to UK. She was living alone in Mumbai. Have been trying to contact her with her mobile number and it seems to be switched off. 

Bommaigalil Oru Blooper

The Reluctant Poser

A few years ago, we visited our husband's hometown in the Southern most part of the country and decided to do a food-based trip in Tamilnadu. From Gopu Iyengar's Tiffin in Madurai to Needamangalam Paalgova to the breakfast place near Thanjavur Railway station, to Asoka Alwa in Tiruvaiyaaru, we went around the Thanjavur-Madurai belt to test some fantastic food / snacks.

As part of the trip we also ended up visiting quite a few temples - Srirangam Ranganathar, Thanjavur Periya Kovil and Pillayarpatti amongst others. Completely unplanned though, we managed to visit 5 out of the 6 Arupadai Veedus including Pazhani, Pazhamudhir Solai, Thirupparangundram, Swami Malai and Tiruchendur. 

We were also at Karaikudi for a day and visited the Chettinad Bungalows and antique shops that sold stuff from Chettinad families who had stayed there once upon a time. These shops were filled with huge photo frames, Chettinad utensils, chandeliers and quite a lot of Golu Bommais.

Spotted amongst the lot of big and ofcourse expensive Bommais, was this tiny Pazhani Murugan who's less than 4 ft tall. The seller didn't quote much as he knew we were only window shopping and were not serious shoppers there buying vintage pieces to add to their collection. This bommai was sold for Rs.100 if I remember right.




Look at Him. He almost seems like being forced to pose for a passport photograph or being made to smile for his parents' instagram reel.  By the way, what is Murugar's favourite food item? Like his brother has Kozhakkattais, his Maama's Krishnan avadharam has seedais, He should have something no? May be it's Cheese. And he's waiting for someone to say "Cheeeeeeese" to smile.
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Please do read my earlier posts on Navarathri Golu.

Twins - Separated at Birth?

Masterji

Harini's Paatti - I met her last in October 2019, if I remember right. Maama (her husband) had passed away, her son and family had moved to UK. She was living alone in Mumbai. Have been trying to contact her with her mobile number and it seems to be switched off. 

Bommaigalil Oru Blooper

Dasavatharam

Chittie

Golu 2012

Bead Work

Golu 2008


Golu
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Friday, September 23, 2022

Twins - Separated at Birth?

Navarathri Golu Bommais means ki Mylapore Maada Veedhi only. Ya I know, that sounded like a Radio ad. It's one of the many things Mylapore boasts of unlike its poor distant cousin T.Nagar which has only Javuli Maaligais and Saree Stores by the kilo.

The KuraLagam, Khadi Gramodyog Bhavan were / are still there, yet the joy of bargaining like Pakkis and buying the dolls is something else only. What's even better - Going to Maada Veedhi on Vijayadasami day or the day after and buying dolls at better prices as they wind up business. 

Aatha is an expert bargainer. So going to Maada Veedhi with her means ki you can safely look the other way not to be embarrassed seen with her when she bargains. For eg a vendor selling a doll for Rs.50 means, Amma will safely ask them "Kadaisiya solren, Patthu Rooba" and she will end up paying them Rs.15 and buy.

With barely any space left to store the bommais, I have stopped buying dolls altogether with a few exceptions of individual dolls that one ends up picking up once every few years. These are the ones belonging to a large set of bommais that managed to survive when the rest of them got broken.

In 2018 or 2019 (and I don't quite remember), I had picked up an individual doll from a Mylapore store in Maada Veedhi - a Lady in a green saree and red blouse , holding a flower, wearing a crown sort of thing. She looked regal and I loved how well she was styled. The seller mentioned that she was part of a set and the rest were broken. Bought it immediately. As soon as I came back she was promptly packed and stored along with the other bommais and forgotten about. 

Cut to 2022 - Was passing by a Navarathri bommai kadai (doll shop) in Matunga in Mumbai. Came across a bommai in a green saree and red blouse, holding a flower, wearing a crown sort of thing. Loved it so much and it was being sold dirt-cheap. Here again, the seller didn't know which set she belonged to.

After a few days as I unpacked the older dolls a.k.a existing collection of dolls I came across the Green saree lady from the box and was taken by surprise with the sheer reoccurrence of buying the same bommai again after four years.


What do you think? Were they twins separated at birth in Madras - where one grew up in Mylai and the other in Matunga?  Kuzhandaiyum-Deivamum or Vani-Rani (the film) or 'Yaar Nee'?

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Please do read my earlier posts on Navarathri Golu.

Masterji

Harini's Paatti - I met her last in October 2019, if I remember right. Maama (her husband) had passed away, her son and family had moved to UK. She was living alone in Mumbai. Have been trying to contact her with her mobile number and it seems to be switched off. 

Bommaigalil Oru Blooper

Thursday, September 22, 2022

Masterji

Please do read my earlier posts on Navarathri Golu.

Harini's Paatti - I met her last in October 2019, if I remember right. Maama (her husband) had passed away, her son and family had moved to UK. She was living alone in Mumbai. Have been trying to contact her with her mobile number and it seems to be switched off. 

Bommaigalil Oru Blooper

Dasavatharam

Chittie

Golu 2012

Bead Work

Golu 2008


Golu
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If there's one thing I would've loved to carry from Madras from parents' place , it was the lot of Golu Bommais we had, which featured in the 11-padi Navarathri year after year. We had a band set, two cute babies with hands on their chins, Dasavatharam amongst many others. Over the years, most got broken and now I wish I had helped maintain them doing the bare minimum of wrapping them in newspaper before storing them back.

Navarathri Golu back home was a grand affair with a stream of visitors morning and evening, for 9 days. The brunch was grand and the Sundal, grander. There were no dearth of saree gifts for my mother as she was a VIP guest at friends' and family Golus. Hip families used to send printed card invites for Navarathri Golu. And Amma would look forward to a certain 'Ezhaikketha Yelakkai' family invite at Santhome. 

At the end of 9 days, the house was flooded with return gifts including plastic koodais, tiffin dabbas and ofcourse blouse bits. Nothing was discarded. At best recycled, may be when Amma fell short of her return gifts for our home guests.

Post mid 90s, the 11 padi became one padi in the ground floor for convenience's sake. There were very few bommais but the grand brunch and Sundal continued. From the few lot of Bommais that survived, I managed to bring a few. The only clay bommai is this Masterji. It was one of the easier ones to carry from Madras and thus it's survived with me for the last two decades. 



It's funny how something as small as a one foot bommai can trigger so many beautiful memories. As I type this, I can still smell 'Pattu' maami's fantastic payasam and the Friday Puttus